A friend was telling me about a relative of hers who loves to hang on to old grievances, making holiday get-togethers an unpleasant event to behold. It sounded like a really unfunny version of Frank Costanza’s Festivus. While I felt for the friend, an alarm went off in me. I have that grudge-holding relative within me and without proper care and feeding, could very naturally become the bitter person Bob Dylan describes:

While one who sings with his tongue on fire
Gargles in the rat race choir
Bent out of shape from society’s pliers
Cares not to come up any higher
But rather get you down in the hole
That he’s in

I was perversely inspired by my friend’s story to stay vigilant this year about Katie’s Bank Of Grievances.  My inspiration is an ee cummings poem.


let it go
e.e. cummings

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smashed word broken
open vow or
the oath cracked length
wise – let it go it
was sworn to

let them go – the
truthful liars and
the false fair friends
and the boths and
neithers – you must let them go they
were born
to go

let all go – the
big small middling
tall bigger really
the biggest and all
things – let all go

so comes love

3 thoughts on “Release”

  1. Love this, love ee cummings, and this is a message I need to hear again and again. I too am a grudge-holder. A champion grudge-holder, in fact. I shall carry ee’s words with me as I try to let it go.

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